Posted by: missionventureministries | August 26, 2012

MARRIAGE – “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” – Matthew 19:6

Here we have a beautiful example of a prayer that can be used for the marriage vows: “May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me” (John 17:23).This is a loving example of how God wants us to function. Just as God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit are separate individuals within the Godhead, yet they are one in purpose. In marriage the husband and wife are different individuals and yet they are to be one in purpose. 

Scripture tells us that: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”(Proverbs 18:22) 

1 Corinthians 13 describes how love should be: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

In Paul’s teachings he wants us to realize: “that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God(1 Corinthians 11:3). Submission is a key element in the smooth functioning of any business, government, or family. God ordained submission in certain relationships to prevent chaos. It’s essential to understand that submission is not surrender, withdrawal, or apathy. It doesn’t mean inferiority, because God created all people in his image and because all have equal value. Submission is mutual commitment and cooperation.

Thus God calls for submission among equals. He didn’t make the man superior; He made a way for the man and woman to work together. Jesus Christ, although equal with God the Father, submitted to Him to carry out the plan for salvation. Likewise, the wife, although equal to man under God, should submit to her husband for the sake of their marriage and family. Submission between equals is submission by choice, not by force.

God created lines of authority in order for his created world to function smoothly. God created men and women with unique and complementary characteristics. One sex is not better than the other. We must not let the issue of authority and submission becomes a wedge to destroy oneness in marriage. Instead, we should use our unique gifts to strengthen our marriage and to glorify God.

In Ephesians 5:25-33 we read:Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Paul devotes twice as many words to telling husbands to love their wives as to telling wives to submit to their husbands. So how should a man love his wife?

  1. He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her.
  2. He should make her well-being of primary importance.
  3. He should care for her as he cares for his own body.

No wife needs to fear submitting to a man who treats her in this way.

We need to realize that the union of husband and wife merges two persons in such a way that little can affect one without also affecting the other. Oneness in marriage doesn’t mean losing your personality in the personality of the other. Instead, it means caring for your spouse as you care for yourself, learning to anticipate his or her needs, helping the other person become all he or she can be.

The creation story tells of God’s plan in Genesis 2:24 – “that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh,” and Jesus also referred to this plan in (Matthew 19:4-6). “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”



  1. Amen

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