Posted by: missionventureministries | November 9, 2016

WHAT DOES THE WORD OF GOD TELL US ABOUT GOSSIP? – Proverbs 11:13

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A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret. (Proverbs 11:13) 

A gossiper is a person who has privileged information about someone and proceeds to reveal that information to those who have no business knowing it. Gossip can also be defined as a slanderer who makes a false spoken statement about the behavior or personal life of other people, often without knowing the truth and therefore damaging this person’s reputation. 

If we were honest, most of us would admit we ourselves at times have a problem with our verbal communication. How many can honestly say they have never said something about someone else and then later realized they should not have said it? If we studied the Bible better, we might regret even more what comes out of our mouth, because: A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much. (Proverbs 20:19) 

Anyone can be guilty of gossiping simply by repeating something heard in confidence. The book of Proverbs has a long list of verses that reveal the dangers of gossip and the potential hurt that results from it. “A person who lacks judgment puts down his neighbor, but a person of understanding holds his tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” (Proverbs 11:12-13) 

The Bible tells us that “a perverse person stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 16:28). Many a friendship has been ruined over a misunderstanding that started with gossip. Those who engage in this behavior do nothing but stir up trouble, cause anger, bitterness, and pain among friends. Sadly, some people thrive on this and look for opportunities to destroy others. And when such people are confronted, they deny the allegations and answer with excuses and rationalizations. Rather than admit wrongdoing, they blame someone else or attempt to minimize the seriousness of the sin. “A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.” (Proverbs 18:7-8) 

The antidote to gossip is to think before you speak, because, whoever guards his mouth and tongue, keeps his soul from troubles. (Proverbs 21:23) 

If no one would ever listen to gossip, then it would likely die, out from a lack of ears to hear. But the reality is there is always someone who is eager to listen and that only feeds the gossiper and enables them to keep the gossiping going. 

When you are telling a story about someone ask yourself the following questions: 

  • How certain am I that the facts are correct? 
  • Was the information given in confidence? 
  • Have I checked the facts with the person involved? I may not even have the facts straight about the situation or the person being gossiped about!!! 
  • Am I telling this story for the edifying of the body of Christ?  
  • Have I asked God if I should share this information with other people? 
  • Do I really love and care about the person that I am gossiping about? Have I gone to the victim of my gossip and asked if I can pray for them and how I can help them if they are struggling in some area of their lives?  

The message throughout the Bible is very clear – don’t gossip! All it does is cause hurt and damage. God rewards the just and the righteous, so do as God commands and avoid gossip – be trustworthy. So, do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29) 

How should we respond when someone begins to gossip? 

  • Don’t participateIf a person refuses to stop trying to convey gossip/slander to you, it will be necessary to distance yourself from them.
  • Avoid themA gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much. (Proverbs 20:19)
  • Change the subject“Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. (Proverbs 26:20)
  • ConfrontBe on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. (Luke 17:3)

Remember that: Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. (James 1:26)

God hates gossip because it hurts people, it damages reputations, it causes friendships to break up, it can destroy marriages, family and even someone’s job. Remember, next time someone gossips to you, don’t participate, change the subject, walk away, or confront them because, “Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. (Proverbs 26:20) 

When in doubt keep silence, because, whoever guards his mouth and tongue, keeps his soul from troubles (Proverbs 21:23). And in case you did not know there seven things that are an ABOMINATION to the Lord and one of them basically refers to gossip: A false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren. (Proverbs 6:19) 

Therefore, refrain from gossip and remember what Jesus said: Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” (Matthew 5:9)

 

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