Posted by: missionventureministries | January 26, 2017



How shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? – Romans 10:14 

The top-priority of a parent is to be an evangelist in their home. You need to teach your children the law of God; teach them the gospel of divine grace; show them their need for a Savior; and point them to Jesus Christ as the only One who can save them. If they grow up without a vital awareness of their need for salvation, you as a parent will have failed in your primary task as their spiritual leader. 

Parents need to be careful though; because parents who force, coerce, or manipulate their kids may pressure them into a false profession, but genuine faith is something that only the Holy Spirit can bring into a person’s mind and heart. The new birth is a work of the Holy Spirit. Only God can work sovereignly in your children’s hearts to draw them to Himself. Their salvation is a matter that must ultimately be settled between them and God. 

Parents are nonetheless responsible to exalt Christ in the home and point their kids to Him as Savior. “How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher?” (Romans 10:14)  

As believing parents and grandparents, we are the first and most important Bible teachers whom God has given them. They will observe our lives up close, to see whether we seriously believe and live by what we are teaching them. They will observe what we teach them about these matters from the earliest time they can understand anything. Therefore, we have a better opportunity than anyone to help them understand about Christ. Every moment of their lives is a teaching opportunity and we should use those opportunities to the best advantage for our kids’ spiritual growth and eternal destiny.   

Teaching the gospel to our kids should be presented in a simple way. Parents have the best years of the child’s life to explain, clarify, stress, and reemphasize gospel truths. The key is to be faithful and consistent in both teaching and demonstrating the gospel. One of the worst things parents can do is be intimidated into thinking someone else would make a better evangelist for their child, thus abdicating their most crucial responsibility, missing the best opportunities for reaching their children, and forfeiting the best blessings of parenthood. 

Parents more than anyone have ample time to be thorough and clear; to explain and illustrate; to listen to feedback; to correct misunderstanding; and to clarify and review the difficult parts. It is the best possible scenario for evangelism. The wise parent will be faithful, patient, persistent, and thorough. In fact that is precisely what Scripture demands of every parent as Deuteronomy 6:6–7 states: “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” 

One very important focus is to explain the concepts of man’s sinfulness and the Holiness of God. We need to teach them about obedience and repentance when they fail. If we do not, we will have the church attended by teenagers and adults whose hearts are devoid of real love for Christ, but who think they are genuine Christians because of something they did as children, like say a prayer under pressure. 

Do not assume your child’s first positive response is full-fledged saving faith. If a five year old has repeated a prayer inviting Jesus into their heart this does not automatically guarantee that they are born again by the indwelling Holy Spirit. Thank them for their desire to become a child of God and that you are very pleased that they want your Savior to be their Savior also. Ask them if they have a good understanding of what it means to be a true Christian. 

Keep your gospel instructions simple and use the A, B, C presentation of the gospel. 

A = Admit that we are a sinner and cannot save ourselves; we were all born as sinners.

B = Believe that Jesus was crucified on the cross to pay our sin debt in full.

C = Confess that we want Jesus to be the Lord of our lives and confess that God raised Him from the dead. 

It is true that saving faith is a childlike trust, and in that sense all sinners must become like little children in order to be saved as we read in Matthew 18:3-4 “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”  

Real faith however, involves understanding and affirming some important concepts that may be out of reach for small children such as sin and punishment, repentance and faith, God’s holiness and His wrath against sin, Christ as God incarnate, the idea of atonement for sin and the meaning of the resurrection and lordship of Christ.  

The specific age at which the child’s understanding is mature enough to grasp such concepts may differ for each child. So there’s no reliable way to pinpoint a physical “age of accountability.” But until the child demonstrates some degree of real understanding and some measure of spiritual fruit, parents should not be quick to regard the child’s rebirth as a settled matter. 

Parents should encourage every sign of faith in their children and use every opportunity to teach them more about Christ, encouraging their every profession of faith.  

Scripture teaches that children develop in four areas. Luke 2:52 tells us Jesus grew in wisdom (mentally), stature (physically), favor with God (spiritually), and favor with mankind (socially).  

When our children are infants and very young it is necessary that we provide them with parental discipline and control so that we can protect them from dangers; such as don’t play in a busy street and don’t touch red hot stove burners. At these developing stages we are both a controller and a counselor’s job. 

The Bible commands us to still maintain a certain amount of control when they are living in our home.

When they leave our house, get married or establish a home of their own, our role as a controller is diminished and we assume the full time role as their counselor when they ask us for advice and guidance.  

We must not demand their obedience to our wishes after they have established their own home; if we have led them to the Lord and trained them in the path of holy living then they will be equipped to make Bible based decisions and live a life that honors our Creator and Savior. 

It is our responsibility, therefore, to teach them how to yield their lives to God. If we don’t teach our children to honor and obey, they will break our heart. 

The book of Proverbs is a priceless guide on this subject. It says, “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, 12 because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.” (Proverbs 3:11-12)

The father and mother who truly love their children will discipline them. Here’s how: “A rod is for the back of him who lacks understanding”  (Proverbs 10:13). In this situation it’s not that the child doesn’t have the correct information, but that he or she refuses to apply it. When your child is young, gently but firmly spank him or her on the backside so you can nip that rebellious spirit before it is too late. Doing so will make you and your child much happier in the long run. 

Proverbs 19:18 gives this warning: “Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.” One day it will be too late: Your son or daughter will be too old for the rod to do any good. Do you realize that if you don’t discipline your children, you actually desire their deaths? Why? When children are left to their own devices like watching unsupervised TV filled with pornography, watching horror movies, reading books and magazines that are inappropriate and filled with satanic teachings like Harry Potter, and Dark Crystal. Also playing games like the Ouija board and Dungeons and Dragons and playing violent video games which increase aggressive behavior and desensitize players to real-life violence… anything could happen. Your son might grow up to be a drug addict and die of an overdose. Maybe your daughter will grow up to be an alcoholic and drive her car into a tree and kill herself and other innocent people. Or any of them could grow up to be a criminal and end up shot in an alley by the police. Discipline your children while there’s still hope. The alternative is death. 

Proverbs 23:13-14 provides this encouragement: “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. 14 Punish them with the rod and save them from death.” When you use the rod to discipline your children, you do more than save their lives—you save their souls. 

Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace”. If you discipline your children and lead them to live obedient lives, they will delight your soul.  

It’s not that complex, set the standards, live by those standards, require your children to live by those standards, and in your old age they’ll love you, support you, and bless you.  

Remember the father should lead the headship in the house with the mother’s partnership. Both mother and father need to be involved in the spiritual, mental, physical and social development of their children. 

God wants our families to reach their full potential and not be forced into the mold of the world. God desires that Christian families not fall apart. Wouldn’t it be great if we had children who were happy; homes that were Christ-centered, where all these things were working out as God designed them? It is possible because it is promised by God! And when it really begins to happen, the world will take notice of us and of our Lord Jesus Christ.

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