Posted by: missionventureministries | August 15, 2019


Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. (Titus 2:3-5) 

Who are the ‘older women’? Paul probably had in mind women beyond child-bearing age. The reason for the advice in Titus 2:3-5 for older women to teach a younger woman married and with children was that the vast majority of young women in the first century would marry at a very young age and needed guidance from an older godly woman.

Paul encourages Titus to teach every group in the church; older men, young men, older women, slaves, every group except for young women! But teaching and training young women on how to live godly lives was and is primarily the responsibility of older women, not the pastor or the elders of a church; therefore, it is vital that godly women and women’s ministries don’t lose sight of this goal.

So what are older women to teach younger women? Let’s look at our verses. 

Older women are to be reverent in the way they live. The term “reverence” was used to characterize the conduct of holiness, which suggests that he is talking about women that love and obey the Lord. They are to teach young women “what is appropriate to sound doctrine” (Titus 2:1), older women that understand the Word of God and who correctly handle the word of truth (2 Timothy 2:15). The reverent woman fears God and lives in His presence serving God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31:26, John 14:15, Psalm 119:15)

Older women are not to be slanderers. A word slanderer in Greek is used to identify the devil! It also means malicious gossipers. A godly woman will not repeat damaging stories about others. She will not spread rumors or half-truths that damage someone’s reputation.

Older women are not to be addicted to wine. There is a connection between a loose tongue and intoxicating drink. A woman who drinks will probably talk too much. These were among the vices commonly associated with the negative type of older women in Greco-Roman society.

Older women are to teach what is good. The word “good” could be translated “beautiful and pure” As we see, it was the older women, not Titus, that were to teach the younger women how to be truly beautiful, namely, to be godly.

This is especially important as the church sees younger women coming to Christ from pagan backgrounds. Perhaps they have not had godly role models to teach them how to make their homes attractive places for their families. They don’t know how to love their husbands and children. Worldly feminism tells them to forget their families and find fulfillment in things of the world. Godly older women are to talk sincerely to them by teaching what is beautiful and attractive about a godly home.

Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands. In this text the word that Paul uses implies the love of friendship. A husband and wife should cultivate an intimate companionship. Love for your husband begins in how you think about him each day. If you complain about his bad habits or verbally attack him all day by your unkind words, you do not love him. You must begin by thanking God for him and by thinking about his needs and how you can fulfill them. The love of friendship requires time together, sharing your thoughts and feelings, and most of all studying God’s Word together.

The younger women are not only supposed to love their husbands but also to respect them; “her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:11-12). Also see Proverbs 31:28, 1 Peter 3:1-6, Ephesians 5:22-24.

Then they can urge the younger women to love their children. This can be difficult at times, especially when they try your patience by their disobedience. It would be good to memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 so that you can learn how to relate to both your husband and children. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Younger women are to teach their children the ways of the Bible. They are to nurture their children with the love of Christ, discipline them with care and wisdom, and train them in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6, Proverbs 31:26-28). And God commanded all of Israel to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up” Deuteronomy 6:5-7).

The younger women are to be self-controlled. It literally means to be in rational control of one’s impulses and passions.

The younger women are to be pure. This refers to sexual purity. You should not associate with anything that feeds your imagination with the supposed pleasures of illicit romance. If something is bothering you because your emotional or physical needs are not being met, you need to find an appropriate time and honestly and calmly talk to your husband about those needs.

Younger women are to have the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. They are to use their creativity and sense of style to create beauty in their life and the lives of their loved ones. (1 Peter 3:1-6)

The younger women is to be busy at home. The reminder here is her duty is first to her home and family. She may work outside the home but never to the neglect of her primary calling to be attentive to her home and family. (Proverbs 31:13-15, Proverbs 31:27)

She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31:20-22) 

She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time watching and dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Philippians 4:8)

The younger women are to be kind. This trait is also part of the fruit of the Spirit given by Paul (Galatians 5:22–23), which is relevant for all Christians. The kind woman thinks of the needs of others and goes out of her way to meet those needs. When a family member is upset or discouraged, she responds with sympathy and kind words.

A kind woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. Her home is not only a secure refuge, but also a base for loving, serving and reaching out to others.

The younger women are to be subject to their own husbands. Paul also writes about wives submitting to their husband in (Ephesians 5:22–33), as does Peter (1 Peter 3:5). In Titus, this is meant to be in contrast to the culture of non-believers in Crete, where wives likely disrespected their husbands. This submission does not mean living as a servant, or never taking initiative. Rather, it means living with love under a husband’s leadership. Paul compares Christian marriage with the relationship between Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22–33).

So that no one will malign the word of God. This is to leave false teachers no chance to attack the Christian faith.

For us at Mission Venture Ministries, it’s a personal attack when we hear anyone belittling or maligning our precious Lord and Savior and the Bible. Our world today is not an easy place for Bible-believing Christians, but we must not let that stop us from teaching the truth of God’s Word. Jesus told us we would be persecuted, just like He was (John 15:20), but all He asks us to do is defend His Word, the Bible, and to share His gospel message with grace and love. God will do the rest.


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