Posted by: missionventureministries | September 26, 2019


Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the request that we have asked of Him. (1 John 5:14-15) 

What do you desire to ask of God? Is it in line with His Word? Does it agree with what the Bible teaches? Is it something that you know God desires for you to have? Then, state it with boldness, and say to the Lord. “I am trusting and believing that what I am asking and desire; you, Lord have heard and I know that I will receive it, amen.”

For example if you are struggling with loneliness, you can rest assured that God doesn’t desire for you to be lonely. He desires for you to have friends, to be a friend, and above all, to know Jesus as your Friend of friends.

You can say with confidence, “Lord, I know that You don’t want me to be lonely. I have a desire to be free from this loneliness, therefore, I claim Your Word today. I believe that You will be the total and complete satisfaction for loneliness in my life. I trust You to fill the void that I feel, and I trust in you Lord to provide for me the friends on this earth who are good, right, and pleasing in Your sight.”

We need to remember that it is only the Lord who never pulls away from a Christian relationship, who never gives up on a person, who always has more to give, and who invites a person to have more dependency on Him.

When you trust in the Lord to be the Source of your joy and your deep need for companionship, you will find that you have more to give to others. You will share and not drain; you will help and not exhaust someone. You will uplift and not overburden. The relationship will be a healthy one, not a demanding or destructive one; it will be a true friendship that removes loneliness.

We need to realize though that a friend who seeks to be a substitute for God is no friend! A true friend will point you to God and help you build a relationship with God. A true friend will not allow you to become dependent on them. A true friend will encourage you to rely on God for your emotional strength.

On whom do you rely for your emotional strength? On whom do you depend to gain approval? On whose opinion do you rely in making decisions and taking action related to your personal problems, responsibilities, and opportunities? If you rely on another human being, you are dependent on that human being. If you rely on God, you are dependent on Him. You cannot be dependent on both at the same time.

What happens, however, is that as we depend on God to be the Source of our emotional security, strength and ability, He allows us to develop relationships with others in which we are truly interdependent. We have something to give to a relationship, something we have received from the Lord. In turn, we are able to receive from others without draining them because we are not only relying on them for our identity.

A true giving and receiving relationship is a healthy one; because, no one loses, rather, both win!

If you don’t invite the Lord to become the One on whom you depend, you cannot truly engage in giving and receiving in relationship with others. If you continue to cling to a person who is feeling emotionally burdened by your dependency, that person is likely to withdraw from you, and you will feel an even greater need to cling. The more you attempt to draw close and to wrap yourself around that person, the more the person will pull away; starting a vicious and unhealthy cycle that ultimately brings a great deal of pain to both parties.

Therefore, when you ask the Lord for something according to His will have the assurance that your request will be heard. When you have a special need such as a friend because you feel lonely, turn first to the Lord, because He is longing to spend time with you; talk to Him about your feelings and ask Him to comfort your heart. Then, ask Him not only to send you a friend but to make you willing to be a friend. And as you get to know people, look for areas of common interest such as reading and studying the Word of God. You may also want to volunteer in an area that you enjoy and make friends that way.

Always remember that if you Ask, it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7).


Source: Excerpts taken from Pastor Charles Stanley’s book “The Source of My Strength.”

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