Posted by: missionventureministries | January 9, 2020


“O my people, listen to my teaching. Open your ears to what I am saying. For I will show you lessons from our history, stories handed down to us from former generations. I will reveal these truths to you so that you can describe these glorious deeds of Jehovah to your children and tell them about the mighty miracles He did. For He gave His laws to Israel and commanded our fathers to teach them to their children, so that they in turn could teach their children too. Thus His laws pass down from generation to generation. In this way each generation has been able to obey His laws and to set its hope anew on God and not forget His glorious miracles.” (Psalm 78:1-7) 

Like the Israelites, we too have been entrusted with the responsibility to teach by instruction and example the truth of God’s Word, which results in a desire to walk obediently before the Lord in the power of the Holy Spirit. Since both instruction and example are necessary, we must have consistency between what we say and what we do if we hope to pass down God’s truths to the next generation. 

The goal is to introduce children to the Lord and help them to place their faith in a living and personal God who is our Creator and Redeemer. It means working to help our children develop a personal relationship with the Lord by faith so that the confidence and convictions of their parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, become the confidence and convictions and inheritance of their children and future generations. 

When we fail to communicate God’s truth to our children, we are guilty of hiding from them the most important information in the world. The great mission of the psalmist, as it should be with all believers and parents, is to reveal the truth of God to their family. 

It is important that if you are a parent trying to raise a teenager that you have an approach that will bring the two of you together, and does not create isolation and separation. There are too many parents that think that by consistently punishing their children that eventually they will get the message and start respecting them; but you need to realize that punishment alone will not get them to where you want to be with your teenager. 

That is why the Bible tells parents: “Do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4) 

Many parents find it difficult to incorporate other methods besides just punishment into how they raise their child because they don’t know how. They need to take a new approach and take the time to sit down with their child and just talk. It is more important than you might think, to ask your teen questions about how they are applying God’s commandments to their life, what is happening with their self-image, and whether or not they are really happy, because often times they will not offer this information on their own.

Many parents will have a hard time talking to their teens about the Lord, especially if they have not given them a foundation in their formative years. And while this seems like an undesirable intrusion into their lives, it’s something important you must do. At first it might be hard for you to reach a happy medium between getting involved with your child and being frustrated by their behavior and reactions, but with a little practice, you will eventually get there. 

You need to understand that when a child or teenager misbehaves, it can be a cry for attention. Although this is not always the case, children and teenagers often do certain things because parents are not devoting enough time and energy to them as they should. 

You are perpetrating a disastrous failure in your family if you do not give your children a biblical foundation for them to build their lives upon; just as Jesus warned His hearers when He told them the parable of the wise and foolish builder. 

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” (Matthew 7:24-27) 

Sadly more and more parents are selfishly taking time to watch their favorite show or game on TV, playing their video games, ignoring their children’s behavior and indulging in their own pleasures, instead of focusing and dealing with teaching and mentoring their kids. Please understand that it is critical that you take the time that is needed to create a solid bridge of communication between you and your teen so that you can come up with ways to solve problems and make life better for the both of you and the whole family. 

From a Biblical perspective here are things every parent and Christian teenager should know and if they are unaware of these basic principles, this will give you the perfect opportunity to share it with them.

First, we need to obey God – As Jesus said, “blessed are those who hear God’s word and obey it” (Luke 11:28). This came straight from our Creator’s mouth, so as we see if we obey God He will bless us. 

You need to explain to your teen that whatever they are starting to experience from peer pressure is probably going to lead to sin. They should be grounded enough in the Bible to say NO to sin and to understand that the consequences are not worth it. 

They need to understand that things the world has to offer are temporarily gratifying; but the things that God has to offer will satisfy us eternally. God is not a killjoy; He has our greatest interests in mind. The Bible really means it when it says that God is the only true source of satisfaction in this life.

1 Corinthians 10:13 teaches us that, “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

As you share with them you can point out how Scripture teaches us wonderful principles. If we belong to God and obey Him, God will not allow any difficulty to come into our lives that we are not capable of bearing in the power of Christ. With every temptation and every testing that comes our way, God will remain faithful to us; He will provide a way to endure the test. We do not have to give in to sin and have the choice to obey God in every circumstance.

Another wonderful promise from God was revealed to the prophet Jeremiah: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

So as you learn and share with your children you will be blessed also.

Second, children need to obey their parents“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1-3)

It may be challenging for children to learn to obey and honor their parents, and for some children, it’s harder than others! But there is a very good reason for this command. Proverbs teaches that those who listen to their parents gain wisdom: “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not respond to rebukes” (Proverbs 13:1).

God’s purpose is for children to learn to honor and obey their parents as they grow up so that they can live wisely. As they learn respect at home, they will respect others appropriately when they leave the home. Even young Jesus, though He was the Son of God, obeyed His earthly parents and as a result grew in wisdom (Luke 2:51-52). The Bible says: “Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death” (Proverbs 19:18).

God holds us responsible for the spiritual condition of our families. Too many parents are relinquishing or ignoring their responsibilities as parents. However, responsibly requires discipline on the part of parents as well as from children. Children have a responsibility to obey their parents; and parents have a responsibility to instruct their children in the ways of God.

Third, obey the authorities“Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.” (Romans 13:1-2)

To a teenager, it may seem cool to be rebellious to authorities; and that is exactly one of the biggest problems with today’s generation; a lack of respect for authority. Whether it’s a police officer, a pastor, a teacher or a grandparent, they need to understand certain people have authority over them, and they need to learn to be respectful and obey.

Remember, today’s child will be tomorrow’s adult. Are you raising a teenager who’ll grow up to be a responsible adult?

1 Timothy 5:8 says, “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” Providing for your family, means much more than simply putting bread on the table. It includes the provision of all the elements of a Christian home; teaching and modeling God’s Word in an atmosphere of love, grace, patience, loving discipline, understanding, and encouragement. This includes modeling biblical values and priorities. 

If no father is present, as is the case in many homes today, this responsibility falls in the lap of the mother. In some cases the father must bear this responsibility where a mother is absent. Whatever the case, parents are the key agents in communicating the Word of God to their children so that God’s truth and the moral integrity and character continues being communicated from generation to generation. 

Grounding our children in scriptural truth is especially important as they head off to school. Because today we live in an environment that is against God, we cannot count on teachers to teach the truth. Although there are many teachers who love the Lord, secular education systems hinder them from talking about spiritual things. God has given us the responsibility to teach our children to discern between truth and error so they’ll be prepared to go out into the world. If we don’t courageously stand up for the truth of Scripture, our children and grandchildren may drown in secularism and unbelief. 

Since our society is disinterested in the things of God, the most loving thing we can do for our children is to discuss spiritual truths with them. We should ask them what they are learning in school and what they believe about spiritual matters. It’s our responsibility to teach them that God is the Creator, and His Son, Jesus Christ, is the only way of salvation (John 14:6). 

Children are born with sinful natures and unless they have the godly influence of parents who are themselves faithful, obedient, and walking with the Lord, their children will go the natural way of their sinful natures. 

Godly children who know Scripture, trust, and are obedient to the Lord do not happen by accident. They are the product of parents who know and walk with God. Unfortunately, if parents are not truly godly, their children are not likely to be either. 

However, never give up hope because if you: 

  • Admit that you are a sinner and cannot attain eternal life by myself. Repent and turn away from your sin. (Romans 3:23)
  • Believe and trust that Jesus Christ is God’s only Son who was crucified for your sins. (Romans 5:8)
  • Confess that you have sinned (1 John 1:9) and commit your life to Jesus Christ and ask Him to be Savior and Lord of your life. (Romans 10:9)  

You need to understand however that many proclaim to believe in God, Jesus and heaven. But there’s a difference between giving intellectual assent to an idea and spiritually acknowledging Christ as Savior. The Bible teaches us that when someone truly comes to faith in Jesus, he or she changes. It’s impossible to remain the same after understanding one’s desperate need for Him. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” (2 Corinthians 5:17). 

The desire for salvation begins with the recognition that we’ve sinned against God and there is no hope of salvation apart from Jesus. When we trust in His sacrifice for the payment of our sin debt, God promises to respond. If you desire to be in heaven with Him for eternity, ask yourself, have I been truly saved? 

If not, now is the time and when you do, the Holy Spirit will come to guide your steps, helping you to understand God’s Word, and show you how to reach your children and the next generation. 

As you open the Bible, you will become more familiar with it, and your faith in the Lord will increase. And as you teach His truths; your life will be changed as well as that of your family. 

There are many restless and dissatisfied young people who are looking for and desperately need to hear what Almighty God can do in their lives. So please remember that providing for our children doesn’t merely include physical needs, material possessions, and education. The most important thing we can do for them is to “Teach a child to choose the right path, and when he is older, he will remain upon it” (Proverbs 22:6).


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