“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32
Each time the enemy bombards us with lies, we must learn to counsel our hearts according to the Truth of God’s Word and to act on His Truth, regardless of what our human reason or our feelings tell us.
When we find ourselves giving in to weariness, frustration, or our flesh; when our mind and emotions are swirling with things we know are not true, we should try to stop and identify the Truth that contradicts those lies.
We should speak the Truth to ourselves; sometimes aloud, and, if necessary over and over again, until the Truth displaces and replaces the lies we have been believing. We should cry out to God for grace to act on what we know to be true and when we do, we are amazed at the power of the Truth to calm our turbulent emotions and to restore sanity to our confusing thoughts.
At times the enemy begins to wreak havoc with our minds and emotions and all we can think about is how wrong the other person has been, and how deeply hurt we are. We begin to let resentful and vindictive thoughts take root in our mind and we revive other past offenses that we thought were long gone. We tend to become obsessed with trying to figure out how to vindicate ourselves and prove our innocence. When that happens, our emotions start to spin out of control and we go into a downward spiral of anger and self-pity believing a number of lies from the enemy. This only leads of hours or days of inner turmoil and struggle.
When we stop this downward spiraling and start focusing on God we generally have a head-on collision with the Truth:
Blessed are the meek . . .
Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. . .
Blessed are the peacemakers. . .
Matthew 5:5, 7, 9
I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. . . love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you . . .
Matthew 5:39, 44
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Now we have a choice. Should we continue to believe the lies, or are we going to embrace the Truth? That is when the battle really starts. Our emotions want to hold on to the offense and we want to nurse the grudge and stay angry. We want to get even, but in our heart we know that this kind of choice will only lead to bondage.
As we kneel before the Lord, with the Bible open we grapple with the Truth, we know that we have to forgive and that we must release the offender and the offense. We realize that the issue is not that we cannot forgive; it is that we don’t want to forgive. As we let the Holy Spirit lead us we know that we have to relinquish any right to get even or to withhold love from those that have hurt us.
As our mind continue to be opened by the Holy Spirit, we are reminded of the consequences of refusing to forgive; of the mercy that we forfeit if we refuse to extend mercy to others, and of the blessings we would receive it we are willing to obey His commands. In our pride and stubbornness it is hard to let go, but we must – to be in fellowship with the Lord.
We need to continue to seek and to speak the Truth to our heart and to make the choice to act on the Truth. As we do this our emotions gradually follow and our spirit is set free.
In time, God gives us further insight into the original situation; He sheds light on why we reacted the way we have and shows us some deeper heart issues that we have not realized needed to be addressed.
We need to be grateful that the Lord loves us enough to orchestrate circumstances to bring those issues to the surface and we should thank Him for using these experiences to make us more like Jesus.
Excerpts from “Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets them Free” by – Nancy Leigh DeMoss